Have you ever noticed that there are times when two people just can't find the right thing to say? You don't mean to offend the other person and they don't mean to offend you, but you both end up offended anyway. Why does that happen? Why can't two people just stop and try to get to the heart of what the other person is saying? We as humans seem to want to take things out of context and try to find the worst meaning for things. We push and push to make the other person upset because we think we'll feel justified, but when it happens, we just feel worse. At some point, we apologize, but we're not really apologizing. We're really just trying to make ourselves seem like the better person. We long to have the other person to come back and seek reconciliation so we don't have to try it ourselves. In those times when the other person does come back, often we respond bitterly anyway. Do we do that because we think that's how we're expected to react?